Friday, March 13, 2009
THE talk.......
My child just walked in the room and asked me what 'expectations' are. Apparently I did not explain it well, because she then asked, "do guys have them too?" UMMMM er, yeah, but we won't talk about those, for a long, long time...always pay for your own dinner.... Luckily this was just a generic run of the mill question, that I was able to clear up by using the example of expectations of a birthday party. But,,,the questions are getting deeper, and I know the day will be coming for THE question, so I need to head it off at the pass. I've read books and prayed, now I have to muster up the courage. After all, she recently asked how dogs have puppies since they don't get married...then my phone rang and I've never been so happy to talk to the Fireman's fund people in my whole life. How did YOU handle this?
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Whoah Nellie - not lookin forward to that one!
"They" say that is is better to have small conversations with your children rather than one big talk.
We have done the small conversations and we did one bigger conversation a few years ago (but she forgot a bunch of it). She has a little brother so they both know that boys and girls are made differently.
As questions come up, I try to answer them without giving more info than they want.
I have also stressed that this is something to talk about with only Mom and Dad. (My MIL is the queen of too-much-information so it is much safer just mom and dad. Dad however would really prefer it it just be mom, LOL)
Ummm....well....we have not had the talk with terminology and all of that because he is FOUR. And I am not ready...even if he is asking how they came out of my tummy. I chickened out and said a Dr. helped!
Carly just turned 9 and this summer we had the big conversation and I think (for us) it was the best decision I have made. She had been asking so many questions and I had been giving simple answers and basically trying to get her to move on. But while we were talking she had so many questions (like how did Jamye Lynn Spears get pregnant?) that I know she had been building all that up for months. I knew that if I didn't do it then she was going to start asking other people like some 5th grader on the playground. I also wanted her to know that I was the one that she should ask and should come to talk to me when she had questions. I know that if I had kept putting her off that she would have gotten the opposite impression from my actions. And, there have been more questions since this summer based on stuff she hears on the radio or TV or another kid. I also know that I want her to learn about this from me and not to be tought from TV, public figures or other kids.
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